Relationship Coaching and Advice that will inspire you to live that honeymoon all over again
Relationship coaching enables each of you to take responsibility for your own issues, stop blaming and focus on real strategies that will help you to find the love that first brought you together
Your partner doesn't have to change for your relationship to get better, by changing yourself you can make enormous difference to your life
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LANGUAGES OF LOVE
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch are the 5 languages we usually use. You can learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.
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We all know that over the past 50 years relationships have changed enormously. We can thank the baby boomers, feminism and the changing technological age for transforming the scenery in which relationships are played out. Put simply the rules have changed and no-one gave us the new ones.
We have thankfully learnt a lot in the last 20 years or so. If relationships still appear to be not working it is because like everything the information and knowledge is slow to seep into the average family home.
New research tells us that talking is not the be all and end all. In fact relying on this 'communication' model may well be the cause of many peoples problems. The fact is that many people just aren't very good at communicating their feelings, needs and desires, at getting their point across or talking as a means of resolving conflict. Very often all talking does is make things feel worse. Who hasn't gone to marriage counselling and come out feeling worse than when they went in?
The truth is the model of marriage counselling that required partners to air all their dissatisfactions and focus on finding a solution to their 'problems' doesn't work for a lot of people. It was all we had but gladly for us our understanding of how we work is much clearer. The expansion of psychology to include cognitive behavioural therapy, integral psychology and energy psychology has cleared the way for a new model of relationship coaching.
This new model has as its base the understanding that a lot of the time it is better not to talk about it. That at the very least talking is definately not enough. That problems usually don't get solved by focusing on them rather, the best solutions to problems emerge from our inner selves, our unconscious minds when we are not focusing on them. That what you focus on grows in your reality and therefore if you focus on the things that irritate you about your partner and your problems then they will grow in your experience. Conversely if you focus on the positive aspects of your partner and the things you love about them you will create a loving, happy atmosphere in which irritations go back where they belong to the 'insignificant' pile.
This new spiritual relationship and the 8 loving actions described in Susan Page's groundbreaking book 'Why Talking Isn't Enough - 8 Loving Actions That Can Transform Your Marriage' are changing people's lives. I have personally seen them transforming relationships that from the outside appeared not to have a hope in hell of surviving.
See how these loving actions can change your relationship even if you partner doesn't do a thing!
Do you know what your Needs are in Life and Relationship? Because the first four needs are survival needs you will strive to make sure they are met, unconsciously usually, and you will meet them in good positive ways but if you can't you will get them met in negative ways. If you aren't getting your needs met you will feel depressed and unhappy and be always searching for something. If you and your partner are not meeting each others needs then your relationship will not feel secure. Meeting these needs can be simple when you what they are and how to go about it. Everyones' ways of meeting these needs are different. For Relationship Advice, call us on 0402034028.
Do you know what your partner's needs are?
How good are you at meeting each others needs?
All human beings have six essential needs which must be met for our survival and happiness, they are:
Call Jan today and find out how you can develop this aspect of your relationship.
